Your Ex Isn't the Problem—Your Pattern Is
Published: January 17, 2026
Duration: 2:54
**Why Your Past Relationships Keep You Single**
You've heard it a thousand times: "Let go of the past." But here's what nobody tells you—your ex isn't haunting your love life. Your unexamined patterns are.
Every failed relationship leaves behind invisible blueprints. Maybe you learned that vulnerability equals pain, so now you keep partners at arm's length while wondering why nobody feels "close enough." Or perhaps you discovered that chasing emotionally unavailable people feels familiar, so stable partners seem boring by comparison.
The most dangerous phrase in dating? "I don't have a type." Everyone ha...
You've heard it a thousand times: "Let go of the past." But here's what nobody tells you—your ex isn't haunting your love life. Your unexamined patterns are.
Every failed relationship leaves behind invisible blueprints. Maybe you learned that vulnerability equals pain, so now you keep partners at arm's length while wondering why nobody feels "close enough." Or perhaps you discovered that chasing emotionally unavailable people feels familiar, so stable partners seem boring by comparison.
The most dangerous phrase in dating? "I don't have a type." Everyone ha...