Everything & Anything...and a bit gay Podcast

In this episode, Zach sits down with Delilah, founder of Emergence Pathways, who shares the deeply personal story of realizing she was a lesbian at 25 — after years in a loving relationship with her fiancé — and how that discovery led her to the love of her life. Delilah opens up about: The moment of realization that upended her engagement, and how she and her ex ended up staying close friends Learning to separate different types of attraction (sexual, romantic, aesthetic, platonic, sensual) — now a core part of her work Meeting her wife at a lesbian bar in New Ham...

In this special 300th episode, Zach steps away from the usual format to pay tribute to a true icon: Dolly Parton. This is a personal, heartfelt reflection on what Dolly meant not just to the LGBTQ+ community, but to the world at large. Zach shares a personal story from a family trip to Dollywood, which led to discovering the Eagle Mountain Sanctuary — one of the first signs of just how much quiet charity Dolly built into her life's work. From there, the episode traces decades of generosity most people never knew about: the Buddy Program that helped cu...

Zach kicks off this week's Gay Bit with a full confessional recap of a Thursday night in Boston that started innocently (Mediterranean food with friends Mark, Sam, and new pal Nick) and spiraled into a seven-plus-drink evening across multiple bars. Highlights include meeting a future pansexual podcast guest at dinner, a karaoke bingo night at Cathedral Station, an awkward-but-harmless flirtation with a female Uber driver, a birthday shot for his friend Patrick, a run-in with a guy from a past Provincetown story, and a full blackout Uber ride home. The back half of the episode covers the brutal two-day...

Dr. Frank Spinelli is a physician, certified health coach, HIV advocate, and author whose new book, The Shame Compass, is the product of decades spent understanding — and living with — shame. Frank opens up about his early career treating people living with HIV at Gay Men's Health Crisis, and traces how that work connected to his own history: he was sexually abused for three years, from ages 11 to 13, by a Boy Scout leader who was also a decorated police officer. Frank details how, years later, a book tour jogged a memory of his abuser, leading him to track the...

Richard Wilmore grew up in a tiny town at the top of Wisconsin, so far north he says people mistake Green Bay for "northern." He knew he was different by grade school, though he didn't come out until his twenties at UW Milwaukee, where a big, macho freshman-year roommate turned out to be entirely unbothered by it. The real turning point came in the summer of 1997, when a 12-year-old Richard stumbled on a rerun of The Rosie O'Donnell Show and instantly rewired his life plan from elementary school teacher to talk show host. He describes the show's...

Ryan Landry has been a fixture of Provincetown since 1979, and on this episode he opens up about nearly five decades of camp, chaos, and creative survival. He talks candidly about how the town's architecture and artist-friendly spirit have eroded under development pressure, and why he believes preservation matters as much as any economic argument for growth. From there the conversation moves into the legend of Showgirls, the longest-running show in Provincetown history. Ryan walks through his prolific output of adapted plays and musicals, his parallel life as a visual artist, and the found-family dynamic of running a...

Richard Wilmore grew up in a tiny town at the top of Wisconsin, so far north he says people mistake Green Bay for "northern." He knew he was different by grade school, though he didn't come out until his twenties at UW Milwaukee, where a big, macho freshman-year roommate turned out to be entirely unbothered by it. The real turning point came in the summer of 1997, when a 12-year-old Richard stumbled on a rerun of The Rosie O'Donnell Show and instantly rewired his life plan from elementary school teacher to talk show host. He describes the show's...

In this deeply personal solo episode, Zach opens up about a psychic reading he did with medium Tracy Stella, who he first connected with in 2022 and later welcomed as a guest on the show in 2025. Zach walks through the session in detail — his late father coming through with a message about self-love and staying the course with the podcast, and his mother-in-law Irene, who passed away in November, offering comfort about the choices Zach and his husband Andrew made in her final days. He recounts a string of specific, unprompted details Tracy surfaced that he says she ha...

This week on The Gay Bit, Zach takes listeners through a brunch with his friend "Freddie" that spirals into a full breakdown of modern gay dating culture. What starts as harmless phone-snooping and prank messaging turns into a real conversation about Freddie's Grindr profile — outdated photos, a fudged age, and a "grid" full of one very specific physical type. From there, Zach zooms out into a broader reflection on gay dating culture at large: the elaborate, hyper-specific "type" so many gay men develop, the entire taxonomy of identity categories (bears, twinks, twunks, daddies, otters, and beyond), and wh...

Greg Palmer, known in the community as BabyArm, joins Zach to talk about Gathry, the app he built to help LGBTQ+ people find real events happening around them instead of just defaulting to the same bars every weekend. Greg walks through the origin story, from a themed drag night in London to a game night poster outside his New York apartment, and how those moments revealed corners of queer community he'd never encountered before. The conversation covers Gathry's rapid growth to 26 cities across North America, with distinct plans to expand into London next. Greg and Zach discuss...

Myles Morel is a Capitol Hill correspondent for The Gateway Pundit who's built a following filming candid, on-the-ground moments in DC — including a viral series of clips from outside Senator Mitch McConnell's home during his prolonged public absence. In this conversation, Myles walks through what he saw there, the theories swirling around McConnell's condition, and the behavior that convinced him something bigger is being kept quiet. From there, the conversation moves into how Myles got into video journalism (starting with campaign work during the 2024 cycle), how living and reporting in the DC area has softened some of hi...

Guest: Leila, Founder & CEO, RLC Models and Talent Agency In this episode, Zach sits down with Leila, the powerhouse behind RLC Models and Talent Agency, who has spent 23 years building one of LA's most versatile talent and modeling operations. Leila shares the story of landing her first major client, Budweiser, just months after opening her agency, and how that relationship (along with Tecate) led to years of work sponsoring major sporting events in boxing, football, and basketball. She talks candidly about working alongside major names like Drake, Enrique Iglesias, Bad Bunny, Snoop Dogg, and Jamie...

In this week's "This Is Everything" segment, Zach gets personal about a question that's been on his mind: what does it actually mean to be a queer person living in a red state right now? Prompted by a wave of anti-LGBTQ+ news alerts and his own family's push to relocate, Zach walks through why he and his husband Andrew have ruled out moving closer to his brother, despite the appeal of buying a house outright and being near family. He talks candidly about growing up in Miami, the segregation he's noticed living in Massachusetts, and how racism...

Japheth Franco — the TikTok creator gay men (and everyone else) are calling their "gay big brother" — is back for round two. This time he and Zach get into the messy middle of modern dating: the catfish who never shows up on FaceTime, the guy who vanishes after weeks of daily texting, and why ghosting does more psychological damage than a direct rejection ever could. Japheth breaks down his core dating rule — get clear on what you want and say it upfront, because clarity saves everyone time — and explains why time, once wasted, is the one thing you can neve...

Happy Friday! This week's Gay Bit is a personal one — Zach digs into the real, decades-long backstory of how he became an interviewer, long before "podcast host" was ever the plan. It starts in childhood, filming home movies on VCR cameras and later mini-DVD cameras, a habit inherited from his father, who Zach describes as the family historian. Those tapes — now digitized — capture a teenage Zach already doing mock interviews with friends, including one memorable bit where he played Barbara Walters interviewing a very reluctant, very shy friend. From there, Zach revisits his high school prank...

Nathan spent years climbing the corporate ladder at L'Oreal, eventually reaching senior vice president level across brands like Kiehl's and Baxter of California. But the more success he found in corporate beauty, the more disconnected he felt from what stylists and their clients actually wanted — so he walked away to start his own company from scratch. That company became Filament Sciences, home to the haircare brand Filament. Unlike most beauty startups that lean on contract manufacturers or repackaged formulas, Nathan self-funded years of custom molecular research and development, building a patented technology that repairs broken bonds inside da...

Zach welcomes Philip Anthony, host of Downright Upright on Minnesota's AM 950 — "the Progressive Voice of Minnesota" — for a conversation that moves from career origin stories all the way to the heart. Philip shares how he went from teaching and legal work to becoming a flight attendant, landing (unexpectedly) in Minneapolis-St. Paul, where he found a tight-knit community, met his husband, and eventually turned a pandemic-era podcast into a full progressive radio show. He and Zach swap first-date stories, laugh about the "Craigslist romance section" era of gay dating, and reflect on coming out to their mothers in very...

Neyla Pekarek spent eight years as the cellist and vocalist for The Lumineers, joining the band just weeks after graduating college in 2010 after answering a Craigslist ad. What started as a way to get out of her parents' house turned into Grammy nominations, a Saturday Night Live performance, opening for U2, playing Madison Square Garden and Red Rocks, and an invitation to perform for President Obama at the White House. In this conversation, Neyla talks about why she eventually left the band to pursue her own songwriting and return to her musical theater roots, and how being...

Support for same-sex marriage in America just dropped six points since 2022 — and Zach wants to know why. In this week's solo episode, he digs into a recent Gallup poll showing acceptance falling from 71% to 65%, even as LGBTQ+ identification among Gen Z and millennials continues to climb. It's a contradiction that's been sitting with him, and he works through it out loud. The conversation ranges from anti-gay laws spreading across parts of Africa, to Budapest's pride parade defying a hostile government, to the swelling wave of anti-trans legislation moving through U.S. statehouses. Zach pushes back hard on th...

Broadway Bounces Actor After Transphobic Videos Resurface — Geno Segers was set to play Hades in Hadestown until old videos surfaced of him comparing trans people's fight for equal rights to people impersonating animals for discounted airfare, and mocking the idea of stating pronouns. Producers "mutually agreed" to part ways days after his casting was announced; his apology was criticized for not naming who was harmed. Canada Ends Decades of Discrimination Against Gay Sperm Donors — Health Canada eliminated sexual-behavior screening questions that specifically targeted gay and bisexual donors, following a years-long legal challenge from a donor named Aziz. Medi...