Everything & Anything...and a bit gay Podcast

What happens when a couple married for 40 years finally says something out loud to each other for the first time? Certified sex therapist Keri Green, LMFT, CST has seen it, and she says nearly every relationship problem comes down to one thing: communication.Zach and Keri cover a lot of ground. They talk about the three C's she looked for while dating as a single mom in her 40s. They get into why opening a relationship rarely works when only one partner wants it, and the unusual kinks that have come up in her practice. Keri explains...

What happens when you track down every person you've ever kissed, dated, or hooked up with and ask them what really happened? Zach sits down with comedic actor, writer, and fellow podcaster Miriam Katz, the creator of The Ex Appeal Podcast. Her show is built around exactly that premise, and it caught the attention of The View and the New York Post.Miriam's list runs to 112 people. So far she's interviewed about 20 of them, from her fifth-grade first date in Boston (she asked him out on the swings) to a six-year entanglement she calls "Mr. Mayhem." She...

Zach sits down with psychic medium and mentor Alysa Conger — a working model of nearly 17 years who also teaches people how to access their own intuition. They dig into what it actually looks like to build a mediumship practice, how Alysa's own psychic path was catalyzed by her father's suicide in 2022 (three days before her birthday), and the eerie "signs" she picked up in the days before it happened.Alysa opens up about surviving a serious car accident that same year — including a brief out-of-body experience and a traumatic brain injury she believes sharpened her intuitive abilities — and sh...

In this week's "This Is Everything" segment, Zach digs into the history of the Boy Scouts of America — now rebranded as Scouting America — tracing it from its 1910 founding through a devastating sexual abuse scandal that led to a $2.46 billion settlement and 2020 bankruptcy filing. He covers the organization's slow evolution on LGBTQ+ inclusion (gay youth in 2013, gay leaders in 2015, transgender youth in 2017) and girls joining Cub Scouts and the flagship program. The episode culminates in a breakdown of a 2026 controversy: pressure from Defense Secretary Pete Hegseth and the quiet elimination of dedicated spaces for girls, scouts of color, LGBTQ+ scouts, and...

Zach sits down with his friend of 27 years, Justin Schiefner, a ten-time Burning Man attendee, to unpack everything the HBO Max documentary doesn't fully capture. Justin walks through his evolution from a broke first-timer in a canvas tent to a seasoned burner with a full RV setup, breaking down the real costs, the gifting economy, and the radical inclusion that defines the Black Rock City experience. The conversation covers lighter territory — meeting his partner Will at a Burning Man-adjacent party, bringing his dad to the Temple, and the infamous 2:2:2 Tuesday tradition — alongside more candid topics like the Orgy Dome, drug...

Guests: Nicholas Molencupp (writer, co-director, star) and Cameron Moir (actor, producer) of the upcoming film In BetweenEpisode Overview:Zach sits down with Nicholas Molencupp and Cameron Moir ahead of the world premiere of their film In Between at the Out on Film festival (an Oscar-qualifying festival) on September 26th. They dig into how the two met — Cameron cold-emailing Nicholas after seeing his Indiegogo campaign — and how a two-year writing process, a $20,000 crowdfunding push, and a scrappy four-month sprint to production turned into a finished feature.What they discuss:How Cameron discovered Nicholas's proj...

In this week's Gay Bit, Zach finally unpacks a story he's been sitting on since 2004: the time his husband Andrew talked him and their friend Tony into a week at "Camp Camp," an adult LGBTQ+ sleepaway camp in rural Maine.What followed was less "magical queer retreat" and more survival horror — rusty sink water, a shower shared with granddaddy long-legs spiders, a toilet that wasn't bolted to the floor, zero cell service, and a camera-happy stranger who wouldn't stop photographing Zach and Tony. Add in mandatory "rainbow group" sharing circles, a camper who burst into tears on da...

Zach continues his real-talk series on surviving a 28-year relationship — from moving in together and fighting over furniture to the terrifying night his husband said "I'm not happy." Honest, funny, and unfiltered relationship talk. Picking up from Part 1's origin story, Zach recaps the whirlwind first year and a half before he and Andrew moved in togetherThe awkward apartment-hunting saga on the Upper East Side, including who really controlled the decor decisionsLearning to live with someone — messiness, shared closets, and merging two lives into one bedroomZach's parents' disastrous "housewarming gift" dish-shopping trip (and why his dad swore...

Guest: Matt Freeman — theater educator, arts administrator, and founder of Change ArtsGrowing up in the On Tour Company magnet theater program in Belmore/Merrick, NYBeing closeted alongside other gay classmates in the '90s vs. kids coming out todayComing out to his parents the same night his father later came out too — on Fire Island, at nearly 70How Matt found Fire Island through his husband Adam, and their move from weekly rentals to homeownership in Cherry GroveFire Island's queer theatrical history: 1930s Broadway "theater people," the 1938 hurricane, and how lesbians preserved Cherry Grove's queer identity during the AIDS...

Zach sits down with writer, fashion industry veteran, and unlikely viral sensation Brenda Cullerton — a woman who spent decades writing for major publications and working alongside Anna Wintour before reinventing herself as an internet personality in her seventies. They cover Brenda's accidental path to virality through TikTok's "subway takes" and her Instagram series "I Don't Know," her solo show "Jay-Z and Me" (born from a concert injury and staged at the Edinburgh Fringe), her stand-up comedy bombing stories, and her decades of friendships in gay fashion circles. The conversation turns candid on New York's gentrification, the generational divide in ho...

In this episode of Everything & Anything…and a Bit Gay, Zach sits down with Juan Gallen — a digital nomad, spiritual mentor, and coach who helps gay men break cycles of compulsive hookups and anxious attachment by getting to the root of their trauma.00:00 — Intro: welcoming Juan Galan00:42 — What being a digital nomad actually looks like (Bali, Indonesia, Thailand, Malaysia, Colombia, Peru)01:51 — Why the nomad lifestyle is harder than it looks, and how Juan builds routine on the road03:23 — Meeting strangers while traveling solo, and how it healed his rejection wounds04:32 — Bridging spiritual awakening with everyday life; the difference between his ge...

In this episode of The Gay Bit, Zach recaps the final days of his Provincetown getaway with his friend Greg. The centerpiece is Ryan Landry's Showgirls — a raunchy, hilarious variety show Zach has been attending for 25 years — featuring co-host Dina Martina and a surprise performance from Latrice Royale of RuPaul's Drag Race fame. Zach also details a guerrilla sticker campaign promoting his podcast, Greg's LGBTQ event-finder app Gathery, and his own friend-finding app Gay BFF, plus a comically disastrous overpacking situation and a mercifully smooth ferry ride home. It's a lighthearted, personal wrap-up to a joyful trip.Dinner at t...

Zach sits down with Karen Kendra Holmes — U.S. military veteran, TEDx speaker, author, and longtime transgender advocate — for a wide-ranging conversation about her decades-long path to living authentically. Karen shares that she began privately exploring her gender identity at age 13 but didn't transition until 53, describing the internal and religious struggles that shaped those "40 years of wandering." She discusses her 24-year military career (including roles with the Maryland Defense Force and U.S. Veterans Reserve Corps), the carefully planned rollout of her transition across a 47-office federal agency, and her work bridging the transgender community and law enforcement through the...

In this episode, Zach sits down with Mike Wood — COO of a $100M company and founder of a 10-week anxiety and depression recovery program — for a raw conversation about what it actually takes to quiet a mind that won't stop running.Mike traces his anxiety back to a single moment at age five: struggling to spell his name in front of his kindergarten class due to undiagnosed dyslexia. That moment programmed a core belief — "I'm not as smart as everyone else" — that ran in the background for the next 35 years, even as he built outward success: a thriving...

In this special, more serious episode of Everything & Anything...and a Bit Gay, Zach steps away from the usual campy interviews to talk directly about the 2026 midterm elections — and why he believes this is one of the most consequential votes of our lifetime.Topics covered:Trump's approval rating sitting in the low-to-mid 30s, trailing his 2018 numbers, with independents souring fastWhy the midterms could determine impeachment prospects and the fate of the Trump family's business dealingsThe $300–400 million White House ballroom and demolition of the East Wing and Rose GardenThe proposed $250 million "arc" near the Lincoln Memorial and othe...

Zach sits down with antique dealer, picker, and bestselling author Duane Scott Cerny (Selling Dead People's Things) for a conversation that swings from delightful to deeply human. Duane recounts his most treasured find — a photo of three-legged circus performer Frank Lentini, discovered by chance in a pile of picture frames — and opens up about his love of John Waters and Divine memorabilia. The conversation turns thoughtful as Duane and Zach discuss the overlooked history of gay antique dealers, what belongings reveal about the people who owned them, and the harder side of the business: hoarding, home shopping addiction, and the...

In this episode of The Gay Bit:Zach kicks things off with a slightly chaotic morning — a physical, low blood pressure, a failed Starbucks latte experiment, and a reaffirmed loyalty to homemade Cuban coffee. Then it's straight into the real topic: his friend's very active dating life.Zach plays relationship detective on three guys currently in rotation — Benji (a non-texter who's fading out), Kevin (mysteriously gone quiet), and Rob (four dates in and cooking dinner together next). Zach interrogates the details the way he always does with his friends' new prospects, admitting he can be "a lo...

Guest: Ricky — painter, sewist, DJ, and host of the podcast Eager to KnowFind Rick: RickyArtist.com In this episode, Zach sits down with Ricky, a self-described "combination of right brain and left brain" who's built an entire creative second act after a first career in global chemical sales and internet technology consulting. They cover: Ricky's career path: 10 years in global chemical company sales, then a pivot into internet technology as a front-end developer and project manager working with major consulting firms in New York Zach's own surprisingly parallel origin story: working for a Miranda Pr...

Guest: AL, independent singer, songwriter, and dancer In this episode: How AL first realized music was more than a hobby — and how obsessively dissecting songs as a kid set him apart from his friends Describing his sound: a "dance industrial" mix inspired by 80s Freddie Mercury and Madonna, layered over dark, story-driven lyricism Writing lyrics solo while collaborating closely with producers on sound Staging two DIY concerts (200+ people) in a barn on his family farm The full story behind filming the "CUMMON" video in an Indianapolis hotel — recruiting 11 dancers from Paragon Indie, not telling hotel staff, an u...

In this episode, Zach sits down with Ditte Young — a Copenhagen-based telepath, animal communicator, licensed therapist, TEDx speaker, and author of four books, including What the Horse Whispers. Ditte opens up about hearing animals speak to her as a four-year-old, the harrowing premonition of her ex-boyfriend's suicide that made her want to shut her gift off entirely, and how three decades of professional readings taught her to master and control her abilities. She and Zach dig into what a telepathic reading actually feels like, how she communicates with her neurodivergent son Philip, and why she believes her gift and hi...