Anger Secrets

byAlastair Duhs

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The Anger Secrets podcast is a weekly show that covers everything you need to know about anger management. Hosted by Anger Expert Alastair Duhs, this podcast offers valuable tips, techniques and strategies for controlling your anger, mastering your emotions and creating calmer, happier and more loving relationships. The Anger Secrets podcast is perfect for anyone who is looking for proven tools and techniques to control their anger and create calmer, happier and more respectful relationships with those they love. If you're ready to learn how to control your anger and live the calmer, happy and more respectful life you want...

Episodes(40 episodes)

164 - Why Small Things Make You So Angry

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.It’s often not the big things that make you angry. It’s the small stuff that hijacks your day. In this thoughtful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores why seemingly minor annoyances can trigger such big reactions, and how learning to let go of them can radically improve your relationships, your mood and your life.Key Takeaways:-Small events like a comment or forgotten chore often trigger anger because of deeper emotional patterns.-Reacting in the heat...

Published: Dec 21, 2025Duration: 10m 41s

163 - The Four Hidden Killers of Your Relationship

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Most relationships don’t fall apart in one explosive moment. They unravel quietly through patterns we barely notice. In this eye-opening episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals the four hidden killers that silently destroy relationships from the inside out. If your connection with your partner feels colder, more distant or just off, this episode might explain why, and what you can do about it.Key Takeaways:-Criticism, defensiveness, contempt and stonewalling are four of the most destructive behaviors in re...

Published: Dec 14, 2025Duration: 12m 41s

162 - Why Active Listening Could Save Your Relationship

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Ever feel like you and your partner are speaking different languages, even when you're in the same room? In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals why active listening is the missing link in most relationships, and how mastering it can bring you closer than ever before. If you’re tired of arguments that go nowhere, this episode offers a better way forward.Key Takeaways:-Active listening means being fully present, not planning your reply while your partner is st...

Published: Dec 7, 2025Duration: 11m 23s

161 - The Real Reasons People Decide to Control Their Anger

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.After an anger outburst, the silence can feel unbearable. In this heartfelt episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals the one essential ingredient most people overlook when trying to change: a powerful personal “why.” Through real stories from men and women just like you, this episode will help you uncover the deeper reason you want to control your anger, and help you finally break free from the cycle for good.Key Takeaways:-Change only lasts when it’s driven by a deep...

Published: Nov 30, 2025Duration: 9m 55s

160 - Why Defensiveness Is Silently Destroying Your Relationship

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever found yourself in an argument before you even realise what triggered it? In this powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores how defensiveness quietly damages relationships, and how you can stop it. Learn why your instinct to defend yourself often masks deeper fears, and how choosing connection over combat can transform your relationship.Key Takeaways:-Defensiveness often stems from the fear that we're to blame, even when we don’t want to admit it.-T...

Published: Nov 23, 2025Duration: 9m 42s

159 - Stop Blaming Others: The Key to Controlling Your Anger

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever said, “You made me so mad”? In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs unpacks the hidden cost of blaming others for your anger—and the freedom that comes when you take full responsibility for your actions. If you’re ready to step out of blame, stop the cycle of conflict and take back control of your emotions, this episode offers the insights and tools you need to begin.Key Takeaways:-Blaming others for your anger gives away you...

Published: Nov 16, 2025Duration: 14m 19s

158 - The Truth About Therapy and Anger — Katie’s Story

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.When therapy didn’t work, Katie feared she’d never get control of her anger. Her relationship was falling apart, her parenting was suffering and she was terrified of repeating the cycle of anger she grew up with. In this inspiring episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs interviews Katie about her powerful journey—how she broke free from past patterns, what finally helped and how her family life has transformed as a result.Key Takeaways:-Therapy often focuses on the past...

Published: Nov 9, 2025Duration: 13m 26s

157 - Do You Want To Be Right — Or Be Happy?

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever felt the urge to prove you're right—especially in the heat of an argument? In this powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares a personal story and a lesson from a truck-driving client that will change the way you think about conflict. Discover why letting go of the need to be right isn’t weakness—it’s one of the most powerful things you can do to protect your relationships and your peace of mind.Key Takeaways:-The n...

Published: Nov 2, 2025Duration: 9m 10s

156 - How to Build a Stronger, Happier Relationship

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Arguments that start small often end in deep emotional disconnect. In this heartfelt episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores how seemingly minor issues can spiral into major conflicts—and how you can change that. He shares three simple but powerful tips that will help you manage conflict better, communicate more effectively and reconnect with your partner in a meaningful way.Key Takeaways:-Conflict doesn’t have to damage your relationship—when handled well, it can actually bring you closer togeth...

Published: Oct 26, 2025Duration: 14m 0s

155 - Why Anger Hits You So Fast — And How to Stop It

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever felt like your anger comes out of nowhere—one moment you're fine, and the next you're exploding? In this insightful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs breaks down the real reasons why you might think you get angry so quickly. By understanding what's truly happening beneath the surface, you can learn to spot the early warning signs of anger, break unhelpful habits and regain control before things spiral.Key Takeaways:-Anger rarely comes out of no...

Published: Oct 19, 2025Duration: 11m 49s

154 - 6 Proven Tips To Control Your Anger Fast

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever said something in anger that you instantly regretted? In this episode of the Anger Secrets Podcast, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares six powerful, practical tips to help you stay calm and in control—even in the heat of the moment. Whether you're struggling with sudden outbursts or lingering tension, these strategies can help you shift from reactive to reflective, strengthening your relationships and your emotional well-being.Key Takeaways:-Anger is a habit, not your identity—and habi...

Published: Oct 12, 2025Duration: 15m 7s

153 - Walking on Eggshells: Paul’s Story

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.What if one moment of clarity could save your relationship? In this heartfelt episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs sits down with Paul, a single father whose anger was slowly pushing away the people he loved most. When his partner said life felt like “walking on eggshells,” Paul knew something had to change — and in just a few weeks, everything began to shift. This is a story of courage, self-awareness and the power of choosing a different path.Key Takeaways:-Const...

Published: Oct 5, 2025Duration: 15m 57s

152 - 5 Excuses That Keep You Stuck in Anger

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Are you telling yourself you'll deal with your anger someday? In this compassionate yet eye-opening episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs breaks down the five most common reasons people avoid anger management — and why those reasons might be keeping you stuck. If you're ready to stop making excuses and start changing your life, this episode is your wake-up call.Key Takeaways:-Believing “anger management won’t work” often stems from past disappointments — but the right tools can lead to real, lasting ch...

Published: Sep 28, 2025Duration: 10m 52s

151 - The Hidden Link Between Alcohol and Anger

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever poured a drink to unwind, only to find yourself angrier than before? In this eye-opening episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores the often misunderstood connection between alcohol and anger. Whether you're a casual drinker or someone who struggles with outbursts after a night out, this episode offers clarity, compassion, and a practical path forward.Key Takeaways:-Alcohol lowers your inhibitions and impairs judgment, making you more likely to lash out in anger-If you...

Published: Sep 21, 2025Duration: 9m 41s

150 - How Raymond Transformed 30 Years of Anger in Just 5 Weeks

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.What if 30 years of anger could be transformed in just five weeks? In this powerful episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares the remarkable story of Raymond, a man whose volatile temper nearly ended his marriage — until one turning point helped him change everything. If you've ever felt like your anger is out of control, Raymond's journey will give you hope, practical tools, and a reminder that it’s never too late to change.Key Takeaways:-Even deeply root...

Published: Sep 14, 2025Duration: 15m 54s

149 - Three Simple Steps To Control Your Anger

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Have you ever promised yourself you'd stay calm—only to find anger rising before you even realised it? In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares three powerful, easy-to-apply steps that will help you recognise, defuse and communicate through anger before it takes control. If you're tired of the regret that follows angry outbursts, these practical tools can help you shift from reaction to intention, and start creating more peaceful moments in your relationships.Key Takeaways:-Anger often builds sl...

Published: Sep 7, 2025Duration: 11m 12s

148 - Breaking the Cycle of Abuse and Violence

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.This episode dives into one of the most difficult but essential topics: understanding how abuse and violence may show up in your life—and how to end the cycle. Anger expert Alastair Duhs speaks with clarity and compassion about behaviors that cause harm, whether through words, control, silence or physical actions. If you’ve ever questioned the impact of your anger or wondered if your actions have crossed a line, this episode offers a courageous path forward.Key Takeaways:-Abu...

Published: Aug 31, 2025Duration: 15m 31s

147 - How to End Arguments Before They Begin

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.Arguments in relationships often start small but quickly spiral into deep disconnection. In this episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs reveals why conflict escalates with the people we love most—and how to stop it before it starts. With three powerful, practical techniques, Alastair guides you to shift from reaction to response, helping you transform your most difficult moments into opportunities for connection.Key Takeaways:-Anger is one of the biggest obstacles to resolving conflict—but even small changes can prev...

Published: Aug 24, 2025Duration: 13m 1s

146 - The Hidden Cost of Anger (and How to Heal)

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this heartfelt episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs explores the emotional toll of anger—not just on the people around you, but on your own sense of self. If you’ve ever whispered an apology and still felt the weight of guilt, this episode will help you understand why anger shows up and how you can begin to break free from its grip. Real stories of transformation offer hope, showing that lasting change begins with awareness and a simple, courageous first step...

Published: Aug 17, 2025Duration: 10m 14s

145 - Breaking the Cycle of Generational Anger — Cameron’s Story

For more information on how to control your anger, visit angersecrets.com.In this deeply moving episode, anger expert Alastair Duhs shares the powerful transformation of Cameron—a husband, father and successful businessman—who took brave steps to change the legacy of anger in his family. After a painful outburst left his daughter afraid, Cameron realised he was repeating patterns he swore he’d never pass on. What followed was a journey of self-awareness, emotional growth and quiet victories that began with enrolling in The Complete Anger Management System.Key Takeaways:-Recog...

Published: Aug 10, 2025Duration: 19m 37s